good, bad, naughty, what?
Recently a male acquaintance asked me: "Are you a good girl?"
We weren't talking about sex, but the question had potential for a sexual undercurrent. I had to really think about my answer. Do I think of myself as a good girl? I feel like I'm too nice to be a "bad girl," but I'm too adventurous to be a "good girl." Finally I told him: "I'm a nice girl, but I don't know if I'm a good girl."
It made me think of how people define "good girl" vs. "bad girl." When I think good girl, I think of someone who's pure, a bit naive, mostly innocent...maybe conservative in bed with a prudish side. When I think of a "bad girl," I see a vixen with a cigarette in one hand and a shot glass in the other. A bit of a wild streak and a definite edge to her.
In that context, I had to think about how people view me. On the surface, I look like a good girl. Guys tell me that all the time. I think it's my "look." It's the trendy glasses, the fact that I'm usually in a t-shirt and jeans, maybe my laid-back attitude. When some guys get to know me better, they are convinced that I'm a "bad girl." Maybe it's the sarcastic streak, my wild side, my tendency to be sexually adventurous.
Yes, I love sex. Does that automatically put me into "bad girl" category? Is it okay for a "good girl" to get raunchy and nasty between the sheets? Can you be a little bit of both?
I guess I'm both. I'm a good girl with bad girl tendencies. Or maybe it's the other way around. as I told my friend, I'm just complicated. Maybe someone like me defies categories.
We weren't talking about sex, but the question had potential for a sexual undercurrent. I had to really think about my answer. Do I think of myself as a good girl? I feel like I'm too nice to be a "bad girl," but I'm too adventurous to be a "good girl." Finally I told him: "I'm a nice girl, but I don't know if I'm a good girl."
It made me think of how people define "good girl" vs. "bad girl." When I think good girl, I think of someone who's pure, a bit naive, mostly innocent...maybe conservative in bed with a prudish side. When I think of a "bad girl," I see a vixen with a cigarette in one hand and a shot glass in the other. A bit of a wild streak and a definite edge to her.
In that context, I had to think about how people view me. On the surface, I look like a good girl. Guys tell me that all the time. I think it's my "look." It's the trendy glasses, the fact that I'm usually in a t-shirt and jeans, maybe my laid-back attitude. When some guys get to know me better, they are convinced that I'm a "bad girl." Maybe it's the sarcastic streak, my wild side, my tendency to be sexually adventurous.
Yes, I love sex. Does that automatically put me into "bad girl" category? Is it okay for a "good girl" to get raunchy and nasty between the sheets? Can you be a little bit of both?
I guess I'm both. I'm a good girl with bad girl tendencies. Or maybe it's the other way around. as I told my friend, I'm just complicated. Maybe someone like me defies categories.
Labels: experiences, life
posted by Kis Lee at
5:11 PM
3 Comments:
You bring up an excellent point. I love to be called 'my good, big girl' by Adonis, but you're may be right - I think I'm nice rather than actually good.
Aren't words fun?
xx Dee
playing with words is fun! i like it when my lover says "good girl" with a glint in his eye. :)
Hard to answer what he asked, unless you know what he meant.
I have a good girl that I make do "bad" things. Another way to make it all work!
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